Expectations & Conduct For BDSM

Code Of Conduct

While conduct and expectations will vary in your situation, these are some common expectations you will face in the BDSM community you should adopt.

• Never cheat or engage with additional partners in an exclusive dynamic.
• Never openly talk/brag about your BDSM relationship by name-dropping your partner with others unless that is agreed upon. People often expect some anonymity and privacy in BDSM so as not to affect their personal and/or professional lives.
• Learn the safety concerns for any kink you wish to practice on someone (or have done on yourself).
• Never stop learning, we are all students in this big world. Always come in with an open mind and ears.
• Never take screenshots, photo images, or videos without clear consent. Never share said material without additional consent.
• Listen to your partner, and respect each other’s limits.
• Do not use your safe word as a joke, it devalues its importance for the moment when it is truly needed.
• Do not underestimate the headspace of a submissive. Some submissives may consent to something they would not otherwise when feeling submissive. As a Dominant, you should be cautious around pushing boundaries within scenes and know the limits of your submissive.

House Rules

If you ever partake in a local event or community check their rules and expectations before diving in. Many have specific rules that may not be obvious, such as no phone/camera use or drinking. Rules like these exist to ensure the privacy and safety of attendees, it can be a confusing venture if you do not pay attention. If you are unsure about something reach out beforehand and ask if something is alright.

Our Discord Community Rules

TBD